Ladies, listen up! A hookup buddy means exactly what it says. It’s just someone you have sex with—with no strings attached. There’s usually nothing more to it.
But life isn’t always that easy. It’s not uncommon for hookups to progress into something more, especially if there’s a strong attraction between you and your hookup. However, if only one catches feelings, the other person usually ends things to avoid problems.
If you’re wondering, “Does my hookup have feelings for me, or am I just a hookup?” keep reading, and we’ll tell you the signs you need to be aware of.
Signs Your Hookup Wants More
Here are some telltale signs that he’s more into you than he’s willing to admit.
1. He texts and calls you all the time
When we say he calls and texts you, we don’t mean those 2 AM booty calls. We’re talking about keep-in-touch calls, where he calls to ask you how your day has been. He may also send you selfies or funny texts just to show you that he’s thinking about you.
He may send texts every other day or several days a week in the beginning. But if he’s really considering you as a potential girlfriend, text messages will start coming every day.
2. He talks to his friends about you
He wants you to meet his friends, and they know who you are! That means he talks about you with his friends, which indicates you’re important to him. He wants to include you in his life because he wants you to be a part of his world.
3. You go out on dates
Let’s get one thing straight here. Hookup buddies don’t go on dates. Ever. That’s like a golden rule when it comes to hooking up. People who are dating go on dates—not hookup buddies. Why would you date someone you don’t want to get attached with? So when he takes you out on dates, that’s a good sign that he likes you.
4. He wants to know you more
He asks a lot of questions about you, such as where you come from and your aspirations and goals in life. That means he’s interested in more than just your body and wants to know more about you. He finds you fascinating.
5. He sticks around the next morning
An exit strategy is vital for hookups, which is equally valid for both genders. Most hookup buddies don’t spend the night to avoid the awkward morning scenario. Of course, if he’s been drinking, he’s allowed to pass out and save the exit the next morning. However, if your partner is wide awake and fine to drive but still stays over, that’s a good sign that he’s not used to hookups and is probably looking for something more.
7. He always has time for you
If you’re just a hookup for him, he’ll most likely ignore you. He’ll take his time replying to your messages. He might even pretend not to know you, even if you’re in the same room. However, if he’s eyeing you as girlfriend material, he’ll behave differently. He’ll always have time for you and will never ignore you.
Signs You’re Just a Hookup
Here are some signs that he’s just not that into you.
1. He takes his sweet time replying to your texts
He takes forever to reply. And when he does, his texts often make no sense. He doesn’t even take the time to answer your questions properly. If he always says something like, “I’ve been really busy at work this week” or “Oh, I just saw this”, he’s lying. Call BS and move on.
2. You’ve never been to his place
If your hookup buddy has roommates and you’ve never been invited over, chances are, he doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends. Why? Because he doesn’t plan to have you for long in his life.
3. He always has an exit strategy
Another surefire sign that he’s not that into you is that he never sleeps over. He always leaves right after the hookup. You don’t get to do relationship stuff, such as pillow talk, bedtime cuddles, or cutesy breakfasts in the morning. It just simply means they don’t want to be in your life.
4. You only see him at night
One of the foolproof signs that he just sees you as a friend with benefits is when you only get to see him at night. That means you have no place in his day-to-day life. He only takes the time to see you when he wants to get laid.
Final Thoughts
These signs can help you spot if your hookup buddy is catching feelings for you. But it’s still always best to ask your partner directly if you really want to know. However, steel yourself and be ready to end things if he doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. It just won’t be the same afterward if one of you is looking for something that the other won’t be able to give.
