Because of the online nature of chat rooms, using them to turn a partner on can be challenging. It’s hardest for guys who seduce people better in person. It’s even trickier for men who don’t feel confident about their flirting skills. What should you do if you have no self-confidence but want to try sexting?

If you’re not used to using gay chat rooms for sexting, we’ve got you covered. Below is a sex talk gay guide we put together for all who want help in the dirty talk department. Remember, words are most powerful when employed properly.

Ways to Get Your Partner Hot and Bothered with Gay Sexting

Are you excited to arouse your man even when you’re miles or continents away? What better and safer way to find out what a new partner likes in bed than through sexting, where opting out is easier than in person?

Before you dive into the sexting rabbit hole, read these tips.

1. Go slow with gay male sexting

The problem with the internet era is that everyone wants pleasure ASAP. In this case, your approach should be with patience and to let some sexual tension build-up. The longer the sexual build-up, the better the release will be. Take it slow when you’re only starting the sexting session or practice.

Never rush into gay dirty talk. Use the first few minutes to stroke your partner’s desire and use a fun game to break the ice. It’s also the best time to ask about what’s okay and off-limits.

Start it off by sending a series of suggestive photos. Some hot examples include images of the bend of your lower back or the V-shaped muscle near your crotch area. Pair it up with dirty talk. Take notes from a website on dirty talking or your favorite adult entertainment website.

2. Keep the mystery during dirty gay talk

Guess what? Staying mysterious is sexy! There’s nothing sexier than a guy who knows when to talk and when not to. What if you’re not naturally enigmatic and brooding? Pretend you are, even if you’re not like that in real life.

Dirty talking can become too much. Going overkill can kill the mood. You don’t need to visit a psychology website or a self-improvement site to become mysterious. Stay enigmatic with the following tips:

  • Leave some things to the imagination
  • Be suggestive instead of overly descriptive
  • Keep most details of your own life private to protect your data and create mystery
  • Stop in the middle of your sentence or let him finish the idea for you; Make him wonder what you want to say next

3. Don’t limit it to only dirty gay talk

You don’t want your chat to consist of only written data. You’d also want to include photos and videos that tease and arouse as efficiently as your words. Take a picture of your ass in the shower or your package trapped in some tight pants.

You can also turn to Google and the rest of the internet for GIFs, videos, and pictures that can get your message across. Take an innocent piece of content from a website and use it as a visual aid in your chat.

Showing also extends to hearing. The next time you hear a sound you can use to show your future matches what you mean, save it on your phone.

4. Don’t just focus on gay sex talk, make your partner laugh

Whether through the internet or in person, humor is the best way to get a person to feel more open to your sexting. Share inside jokes, memes about models, or pick up that lines you know will hit the mark. You can even visit a website about sexual puns and pick one that best suits your match. If the pun doesn’t hit, you’ll at least know what to avoid tomorrow or next week.

Sharing jokes is a great ice breaker if your chatmate is new to sexting. Over time, you can reduce your filters and use funny content you can relish as adults. Get the most out of your favorite gay sex chat site by mixing pleasure and fun.

5. Accompany gay dirty talk with props

Add spice to your conversation when you bring out your favorite sex toy. If you want to be less explicit, you can use a non-sexual but relevant item, too. Food like eggplant, banana, and corndog are good examples. You can also capture a phallic picture with other items in your room.

If you have a naughty BDSM streak, consider showing off some toys for adults. Create teaser photos of your handcuffs and silk blindfolds on your chest or navel. You can also take inspiration from BDSM website backgrounds, videos, or product showings.

6. Be patient sexting gay newbies

Did your match tell you he’s new to the sexting website or chat site? A great thing about the LGBTQ+ sexting communities is that they are always ready to accept new members. Below are ways to be newbie-friendly and example statements you can send in your conversation:

Ask open-ended questions that encourage your guy to share.

  • Where do you want me to touch you now?
  • Share with me what you would want us to do if we’re in the shower.
  • Tell me where you’ll guide my hand next.

Make suggestions like you’re in a scenario.

  • Would you like to join me in the bed?
  • How about I go down on you where you’re standing?
  • Will you let me into the bathroom with you?

Send fill-in-the-blank statements that lead to suggestions.

  • I feel most aroused when…
  • My favorite part of the male figure is…
  • I love it most when my partner gives attention to my…

If this is your first time trying sexting but not your partner’s, don’t be afraid to join him. Sexting is also healthy for men in committed relationships, especially long-distance couples. It strengthens your intimacy and love. You also hint at another (virtual) side of yourself to your lover.

7. Create a unique gay sex talk style

Do you like increasing the sexual tension with vivid descriptions? Or are you the sort of man who doesn’t like using too many descriptions? Don’t feel self-conscious if you prefer sending over website links, GIFs, videos, or relevant Google images.

Everyone has their own sexting style.

Some people like using an online roleplaying format. Others prefer using photos with heavy filters. Some like to take inspiration from popular posts and then add a personal twist to make unique, enjoyable, and new content.

Don’t worry if your dirty talk gay style isn’t the hottest you’ve seen yet. Stick to it, follow your gut with what works, and remember that practice makes perfect. Also, try your luck with more than one gay chat website or sexting app. Use various sex chat apps and services to practice your style.

8. Observe good gay male sexting etiquette

Always observe sexting etiquette. Ask for your partner’s consent, whether it’s to see his face, arrange to meet, or send graphic photos. Never disclose personal information, like your place of work, home address, physical hangout site, or real name.

Never leave in the middle of a sexting conversation. Also, always ask if the timing is good for your chatmate or if you must reschedule.

Google the rest of sexting etiquette to learn other sexting dos and don’ts.

9. Listen (read) well and study gay sexting examples

Do you want to develop your sexting to the next level? Learn to listen to your match’s fantasies and fetishes. Build on this information to improve the conversation. A good partner will trust and indulge you in the same way so both parties can enjoy the conversation.

We hope this guide on sexting helped you boost your chances and confidence. Learn more about sexy chatting from our other guides now.