Did “50 Shades of Grey” pique your curiosity about BDSM? Do you want to give it a try but don’t know how to start? You may also be hesitating because you’re afraid people might learn you’re into BDSM. Well, you’re not alone. But here’s a surprise for you. BDSM is a very common kink. In fact, a lot of couples are doing it right now. And a lot more are considering doing it.
But before you get into this kink, make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into. Learn all the safety precautions and have a safe word ready. Once you know how to play safe, try these BDSM positions.
10 Different Bondage Positions & Techniques
If you’re new to BDSM, you should stick with basic bondage positions first. When you’re more experienced, you can proceed to more advanced bondage positions.
Here are 10 of the best BDSM and Shibari positions you can try tonight.
1. Classic missionary bondage position
The classic missionary is one of the easiest male or female bondage positions in this list. All you need are handcuffs or ropes for this position. Have the submissive lie on they’re back with hands over their head. The dominant can then cuff or tie the sub’s wrists to the bedpost.
The best part about this position is that it’s so easy to do on your own. If you’re looking for easy self-bondage positions, the missionary bondage position will give new meaning to kinky.
2. Spread eagle bondage position
This is a more advanced version of the missionary bondage position. In this position, the dom has complete control and access to the sub’s body. Your sub will be at they’re most vulnerable.
Secure your sub’s wrists and ankles to the four corners of the bed with a rope or a bed restraint set. If you’re using a rope, avoid tying it too tightly.
Once you have everything set up, you can start with temperature play or tickle play. You can also play with your sub’s most sensitive areas. This is perfect for couples looking for female or male bondage positions that are both fun and easy to do.
3. Blind doggy position
Blindfolds have got to be one of the most popular BDSM props. Not knowing where the next spanking, kiss, or lick will land can drive anyone wild with erotic anticipation. Blindfold sex can make any position hot.
Put a twist to good old doggy style by throwing a rope and blindfold into the mix. Blindfold the submissive and get them on all fours. The sub will never know where the dom will touch and tease them. Aside from the anticipation, it also adds an exciting stranger-danger element to the play.
4. Chair bondage position
This is a good position for people who are into roleplaying. Find a sturdy chair with an armrest and backrest. Tie the sub’s wrists on the armrest and their ankles on the chair’s legs. You can also use blindfold and a mouth gag to make the experience extra kinky.
5. Bent-over bondage position
This one’s a bit challenging. It will test your sub’s flexibility and balance. But if you’re into anal sex or impact play, then the bent-over position is definitely a must-try. The submissive will have to bend over while the dom cuffs their wrists and connect them to a spreader bar tied to their ankles. The dominant can proceed with some teasing or go directly to impact play once their love slave is positioned.
6. Armbinder gag position
The armbinder gag is an easy bondage position. It doesn’t require a lot of flexibility, but it still takes away the control from the sub. To do this, the submissive will have to put their hands over their shoulders. The dominant will then put the handcuffs, armbinder, and gag on the submissive.
7. Hogtie position
This position will fully immobilize the submissive, giving the dominant full control. The submissive must lie face down on the bed or floor. They will then extend their arms at the back while bending their legs up. Use a regular BDSM rope or a hogtie harness set to secure the sub’s wrists and ankles, then connect them.
Before you try this, take note that it’s one of the most difficult positions on this list. Make sure you’re experienced enough before trying it, especially if you’re only using ropes.
8. Leapfrog bondage position
You can think of this one as the reverse version of the hogtie position. Just like the hogtie, the dom will tie and connect the sub’s wrists and ankles. But instead of connecting them at the back, they’re connected at the love slave’s front.
You can choose to have the wrists on the outside or inside of the ankles. It’s a slight variation, but there’s a change in the feeling of the position. Plus, some people might find one position easier than the other.
9. Crab tie position
This is a pretty restrictive position, as it only allows the sub to roll onto their back or close or open their legs. The dom will tie the submissive’s wrists to their ankles. Extra bindings to the elbows and knees can also be added to make the position more extreme. You can use a silk scarf, BDSM rope, or Velcro arm-to-thigh cuffs.
10. Mummified bondage position
As the name implies, this is a full-bodied form of bondage. This is ideal for people who enjoy restraining their subs more than getting access to their body for sexual pleasure. The dom will wrap the sub’s whole body with a bondage tape, BDSM rope, or plastic wrap.
This is probably one of the most extreme bondage positions. But it’s also its extreme nature that appeals to people who want to push their limits. Not everyone will like the idea of being encased from tip to toe. Even experienced players may panic. Have your safe word ready just in case.
