DDLG is an acronym for daddy dom/little girl—a BDSM relationship where the dominant male plays as a daddy figure while the submissive female plays as a prepubescent girl. Simply put, it’s a popular kind of age play with designated roles already in place.

Daddy doms can go in two different ways, either taking on the role of a nurturing or strict caregiver. Meanwhile, a little girl could be bratty or submissive as long as they’re in a child-like state of mind.

It’s also important to note that a DDLG relationship isn’t fixed in these boxes. In some cases, DDLG can also swap genders and roles, with CGL as the generic term for any caregiver and little relationship. There’s mommy dom/little boy, daddy dom/little boy, mommy dom/little girl…You get the picture.

Although a DDLG relationship is often understood as sexual in nature, there are plenty of other couples who practice the lifestyle outside the bedroom. You might be wondering: Why is it a kink in the first place?

For one, there’s power exchange involved, with the daddy dom getting off on the authority and power they have over the little girl. DDLG is often explained with the psychological condition called age regression, but it can very well just be role play to enhance one’s sex life.

Another unconventional DDLG dynamic can include the little girl acting as the true dom of the relationship, almost like a spoiled brat who can get away with what they want without the punishment. The possibilities are endless!

However flexible the relationship is, it’s not always the easiest to look for daddy dom or little girl who are willing to fully commit to the age play. So, how does one come across the perfect fit?

Matchmaking in the DDLG Dating Community

Truth be told, most DDLG dating apps have gone extinct over time. Iconic sites like DDLGFriends.com have been wiped off the internet for only reasons we can guess, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t a plethora of other ways to get into the little space (just be wary of virus-infected websites that claim to promote the community!).

“Normal” dating apps such as Tinder, OKCupid, and Plenty of Fish can be a source of kinky fun, too. Having subtle pigtails, plushies, and kawaii outfits in your pictures will attract the right people without giving yourself away too much. You can also throw in a few keywords that any like-minded person will pick up on.

Due to the lack of DDLG-focused dating apps, the community has flocked to forums and platforms in search of the perfect match. There, you can introduce yourself in a post—what you’re looking for, your interests, your relationship or sexual preferences, your deal breakers, and your general location. Laying this information on the table early on allows you to filter out the people who otherwise wouldn’t make a compatible daddy dom or little girl.

This should go without saying, but just in case you need reminding: Make sure you spend a lot of time getting to know the person online before handing out more personal information. It doesn’t hurt to go on video call with them to verify that they aren’t a catfish, either!

Best DDLG Dating Apps and Dating Sites

DDLG-Specific

1. Reddit

Reddit thrives on the power of community in anonymity—and the search for a DDLG relationship is no different. Subreddits like r/BDSMPersonals, r/DDLGPersonals, and r/CGLPersonals are swarming with daddy dom and little girl looking for the right partner for them. You’ll never run out of options here. Garnering responses might be a struggle, but as long as you set yourself apart from the rest of the crowd, you should be good!

2. DDLG Forum

What’s great about DDLG Forum is that it also serves as a safe space to ask questions about the lifestyle. You can almost guarantee that everyone is on the same boat as you, and will be happy to help with whatever concerns you may have!

Take note that the moderators are strict about sharing mature content, as any post involving minors will result in an automatic ban. In addition, members aren’t allowed to discuss books, shows, or movies that contain references to pedophilia and incest.

3. Littlespace Online

Littlespace Online is another active platform where little girls and little boys can come together and bond over their shared lifestyle. There’s also events tailored to little interest, such as TGIF Littles TV Night, Group Game Day, and Coloring Club.

Meet-Up Events have been paused due to pandemic safety, but everything else on the site is fair play. You’re free to chat with fellow littles or read up on the many educational resources they have on the lifestyle.

4. DD/LG Matchmaking

This Tumblr site is pegged as a “safe place for littles and princesses alike to search for the daddy of their dreams.” You can be as concise or lengthy in your submission as long as you’re honest!

However, because a moderator is operating the blog, you’ll have to provide your contact details in lieu of a profile. You can give out your Kik, Tumblr, Snapchat, and any other messaging platform of your choice! This makes the conversation flow faster when taken outside of Tumblr, upping your chances to connect with a daddy or mommy dom.

5. Facebook

This might be the place you least expect to be included in the list—and we don’t blame you! Facebook is arguably the most mainstream social network around, but that also means casting a wider net to gain more access to the growing DDLG community.

Some of the most active groups with the most number of members include the following:

The group names can be a lot to take in, but rest assured, these are legitimate groups for the DDLG community! There’s no need to worry about this reaching your family and friends on Facebook as most of these groups are private—just make sure to double-check!

6. ABDL Match

ABDL—short for Adult Baby Diaper Lover—isn’t exactly about a DDLG relationship, but it sure is close! Caregivers can think of this kink as CGL’s sister.

It’s a dating site for the ABDL community that’s been around since 2013. You can browse photos, make friends, send messages and find the perfect adult diaper lover or daddy dom for you.

General Fetish Sites

1. FetLife

FetLife is a popular platform for the general kink and fetish community, boasting over 10 million users on the platform. It’s not a dating site per se, but a social network where daddy dom and little girl can cross paths and connect. This is made easy with the number of groups they have on the site.

Here, members can create and interact in a group devoted to the fetish of their choice. They can also plan an event complete with the date, location, cost, and dress code for like-minded people who are interested in meeting up in real life.

2. Alt

Daddy dom and mommy dom that prefer a more hardcore BDSM experience in DDLG might want to try Alt. Alt specializes in master, slave, mistress, and dominatrix BDSM dating and hook-ups, but DDLG and CGL communities are more than welcome to join the site.

There’s over two million members to get to know and play with here. You know what they say: kawaii in the streets, senpai in the sheets.

3. Bondage Dating

Like Alt, Bondage Dating also caters to the more intense BDSM relationship but is generally open to having DDLG and CGL communities on board. The user interface for Bondage Dating is a little more bearable to the eyes compared to Alt, making it smoother to navigate through the site and find the person for you.

Bondage Dating promises to be “100% legit and filled with real bondage dommes and dominatrixes” unlike other sites swarming with fake profiles. See how true that claim is and put it to the test!

4. KinkD

So you’re not into desktop sites. No problem. KinkD is the largest dating app for the BDSM and fetish community—DDLG and CGL included.

What we love about KinkD is that it matches you with people within your local range, making meet-ups not only possible but also convenient! It’s also packed with diverse users of all sex, gender, and race, so everyone is welcome here! The app is best used in a well-populated area. Download KinkD from the Apple App Store and Google Play Store now.

Can’t Get Enough of Daddy Dom/Little Girl?

Aside from dating apps, there are also tons of DDLG-focused clothing and accessories for all things age play!

DDLG Playlist is one of the largest stores within this little space, with products ranging from pacifiers and diapers to pet play and kinky gear!

Remember—DDLG has nothing to do with pedophilia or incest and everything to do with age play between two consenting adults, often protected with a well-negotiated BDSM contract. Daddy dom should strictly prohibit the involvement of actual children. Don’t let other people kink-shame you otherwise.