Sending sexy text messages is one of our favorite pastimes. There’s nothing quite like the thrill of waiting for a response! Not to mention how exciting it is to think that we could turn our partners on at the press of a button—or rather, at the tap of a touchscreen. So with that in mind, we wanted to share some freaky things to text your boyfriend, girlfriend, or non-binary lover.

But it’s not all fun and games! If there’s one thing we’ve learned over years of sending and receiving erotic messages, it’s that nobody likes getting unsolicited sexts. So in addition to sharing some examples of the best sexting messages we’ve ever seen, we’ll also highlight some basic sexting etiquette rules along the way.

But first…

The Importance of Dirty Text Messages

Most people think of sexy text messages as being crude and profanity-laden. However, if you’re doing it right, sexting should come as naturally as any other kind of conversation. You can be as descriptive as you’d like or keep the conversation vague and suggestive. The most important thing is to keep the ball in the air for as long as you and your partner need it there.

But if you want to get freaky with your honey, you’ll first need to broach the subject and ensure that they’re in the same headspace you’re in. After all, consent is key.

You no longer have to search “lesbian sexy message,” “best sexting lines for guys,” and “sexy lesbian texts” on Google every time you engage in sexting, because we’ve compiled 30 gender-neutral lines below that can be sent to people of every sexuality. Without further ado, let’s see some examples of dirty texts to send if you want to start sexting your partner.

The Best Sexting Lines to Use with Your Partner

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1. “I had a naughty dream about you last night. Would you like to hear about it?”

2. “I miss you so much! I wish you were here… Want to tell me what you’d do to me if you were?”

3. “I bought a gorgeous lingerie set today… Would you like a preview?”

4. “I just saw some of our old sexy text messages and got so turned on! Any chance you’re in the mood for a repeat performance?”

5. “I’m looking at the video we made… I would love to revisit it sometime…”

6. “Are you in the mood for some sexy role play? I could be the nurse this time.”

7. “I’ve been trying to focus on work but I keep thinking about last night. You looked so good in those jeans, but I liked you even better without them.”

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8. “I need you to tear my clothes off right now.”

9. “I’d pin you against the wall and go at it until we’re both breathless. After we’re done, we’d slide to the floor and lay tangled for hours.”

10. “I want to take your panties off with my teeth. I wonder what you taste like.”

11. “Let’s bring some sex toys into this conversation. Tell me what you’re doing and how it feels!/Do you want me to tell you what I’m doing?”

12. “Can’t wait to play with myself while you’re inside me.”

13. “I want to put you on the table and eat you up.”

14. “I need to put you over my knee and spank you. I’d love to see my palm print on your cheeks.”

15. “I want you to tie me up/put handcuffs on me. I’d love to feel helpless while you have your way with me.”

16. “I’ll put you on your hands and knees and do you from behind until you’re begging for mercy.”

17. “Let’s try the shower next time… Just imagine the hot water dripping down your back while I’m going down on you.”

18. “I want to do it on every surface in every room. At my place and yours.”

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19. “That’s so hot! I love it when you make me beg.”

20. “I’d love to make you scream.”

21. “By the time we’re done, you’re going to see stars.”

22. “I’ll keep going until your legs are shaking.”

23. “I’m so turned on!”

24. “I want to lick you all over.”

25. “You’re such a tease…”

26. “I could eat you up right now.”

27. “I love it when you send me sexy text messages… Talk dirty to me!”

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28. “I’d love to meet up and try some of the things we talked about soon…”

29. “I feel so good right now! How about you?”

30. “That was a workout and a half on my end. I feel like I’m floating on clouds… How are you doing?”

Extra Tips for a Sexy Text Chat

Now that we’ve seen some of the steamiest sexy text messages you could send, let’s establish some ground rules. As you have seen, we have tried to arrange the list above in certain sections.

Before you type out a truly filthy sex message to your boyfriend or girlfriend, you should make sure they’re into it. That’s what the first section of sexts is for. But if you and your partner aren’t too fancy, you might even get away with texting: “I’m bored and horny. You down to clown?”

In any case, once you get that first message in—and wait for consent, of course—you’ll be free to get your freak on. If you have an idea of where you want to take the conversation, don’t hesitate to share it. Whether you want to start a role-playing scenario or keep it simple by describing what you’d do to your partner, we’re sure they’d love to hear your thoughts.

Alternatively, you can let them take the lead while you enjoy a more passive role and encourage their efforts. After you both get what you’re looking for out of the conversation, remember to check in before you sign off for the time being. That way, everyone leaves feeling satisfied—in more ways than one. And it gives you time to discuss anything that might have popped up in the heat of the moment if you need to.

Use these Best Sexting Lines to Your Advantage

We hope you found the dirty sex talk text message examples we’ve listed as inspiring as we did. If nothing else, you’ll have no shortage of sexy texts to send to your girlfriend, boyfriend, or that cute stranger on Tinder!

And we’re sure you learned something new from the little sexting guide we’ve put together as well! As you can see, all it takes to have a successful exchange is confidence. Fortunately, that’s something you can develop as you go. So the next time you start typing out a dirty text for your girlfriend or boyfriend, having these prompts nearby should help you get over any initial shyness.